Here’s What You Get
In addition to the course curriculum, I give you a solid system of support and structure so you can establish the new habits that make all the difference in your relationship:
1. A NEW APPROACH TO SEX with me as your guide.
You need both the nuts and bolts of “what to do” and some key, succinct ideas about the ways sexual intimacy is "set up to lose” in long-term relationships in our culture. With both in hand, you’ll be equipped to revive, elevate, or rewrite your sexual connection, right where you are. As a result, you’ll soon be able to create the quantity, quality, and depth of connection you really desire.
2. A MONTH OF PRACTICE *after* you've learned the new skills.
I'll send you bite-sized reminders to take action for 30 days once you've completed the course modules, because getting tips and tricks doesn’t engender a meaningful change in your ways of moving toward intimacy or engaging with one another. When you get support to practice new ideas and skills over time, while your everyday life continues to roll along, your relationship can move to a new place.
30 days of bite-sized learning will help you get really good at these skills and build them into your life, and have a hotter relationship and real confidence and security.
3. WHAT TO EXPECT as you practice these new skills.
Once you understand the whys and how-tos of the skills I’ll teach you, it’s all about practice. Practice will bring up questions. My messages will preemptively answer some of your questions and give you guideposts for where many couples find themselves at each spot in this process. This pacing ensures you have time to practice and stay informed about what’s reasonable to expect at each stage of your learning.
4. REAL-TIME SUPPORT for your practice.
A few weeks into your practice, I’ll invite you both to a real-time practice session with guidance from me before and after. You’ll hang up to practice privately in between these calls, and then again after the second one. The adjustments that will take your skills and your intimacy deeper will be easier to pinpoint and to make if you get guidance directly after your session and then go straight back and practice again. Plus: double the heat!
Clients and students verify that this guidance a great way to iron out any rough patches in your connection and get really good at your new skills, really quickly. But no, you don't have to ask me any questions or tell me anything about your practice if you don't want to. And this session will be recorded for you to reference later.
5. ANONYMOUS HOTLINE for your questions.
At any time throughout the month, you can ask questions via the Q&A “hotline," a private form where you can submit your questions anonymously. At least once a week, I’ll answer the latest batch of questions in a video I’ll share with all participants.
Sexuality is one of the most nuanced and important areas of our lives, and negotiating sexual chemistry inside our primary relationship is extraordinarily challenging, yet most of us never have access to sensitive, skilled guidance in the physical or emotional aspects of connecting.
Sex is both an area where society places tremendous pressure on us to “perform” and a highly taboo subject. That’s why it can be useful to hear others’ questions and their answers, and to be anonymous when you ask questions. We keep the question “hotline” open so you can get down-to-earth, real-people answers to all your important questions about love, sex, men, women, and communication.
6. OPTIONAL FEEDBACK to deepen your practice.
Either or both of you can turn in your practice journal for feedback and guidance from me.
My private coaching clients - and my own experience with being coached in sexual skills - have taught me that journaling the thoughts, feelings, and questions that come up with an ongoing practice is a great way to deepen the learning. As well, I’ve learned that getting feedback on all or part of a practice journal is a phenomenal way to open up the answers to questions we didn’t even know we had, and thereby access new territory emotionally and sensationally.